Studies have clearly demonstrated that children of same-sex parents are as well adjusted and happy as children of heterosexual parents. Same-sex parents have the ability and freedom to create parenting roles that are not gender bound nor tied to stereotypical behaviors. Same sex parents are able to create families of choice that encompass all of the many facets of love, stability and support.
Same sex-couples also have the wonderful opportunity to examine their basic beliefs about parenting, family, values, and decide in a conscious way about what they want to bring to their children.
It’s also important to all prospective parents, whether they are same-sex or not, to discuss basic beliefs prior to baby making, including religious beliefs, discipline, parenting roles, education, communication, and how they speak about the child’s conception to family and friends.
Prospective parents should also use the time before a child is conceived to talk about expectations of each other – not forgetting to consider the stuff we all bring along to the party (our baggage!). It’s also important to talk with members of your extended families and friends with whom you and your child will engage.. What will those relationships be like after the birth of your baby? Are there any conversations that should happen now?
The path to parenthood, is filled with lots of twists and turns for every prospective parent, including LGBTQ individuals and couples. But once that baby is in your arms, you simply become parents, with all the thrills and obligations that everyone else has. Children are one of life’s greatest pleasures and a lifetime commitment of hard work. The best way to get ready for your greatest life pleasure is to have these important conversations while that bundle of joy is still a twinkle in the sky.